Consider a year when the holiday season and family visitations went completely without a hitch. If you can actually think of such a year, you are probably among the lucky few who can. For the most part, families of the tightest knits will admit that the holidays are stressful. Add a recent divorce into the mix and things can become even more complicated, especially if the divorcés share children together.
Are you in the same situation? Not sure how child custody is going to work with the holidays? Review these child custody tips and hints for the holiday season, and you may be able to avoid the worst of confrontations and maximize the cheer this time of year.
Holiday child custody tips, hints, and bits of advice:
- Split celebrations: If getting everyone around one table is not an option – for many divorces, it really is not – you will need to consider splitting holiday celebrations into two days. Perhaps you can see your children the day before the holiday and your ex-spouse sees them on the actual holiday? Turning one holiday into two days might not be ideal, but it is possible, and it can be fun.
- There each holiday: Speaking of splitting holidays, you should make an attempt to see your children for each major holiday, and allow your ex-spouse to do the same. If you see your kids just for Christmas and not for New Year’s Eve, for example, it could send the message that you are only seeing them because it is necessary. When the day is truly special, it should be shared with everyone.
- Don’t overindulge: Many parents feel like they need to absolutely shower their children with presents for the first few holidays after a divorce. You and your ex-spouse should both avoid this practice. If you suddenly ramp up the affection and gifts for your kids following a divorce, it will seem like you are trying to buy their love and attention. It also suggests that your divorce was wrong and you are trying to make things right.
- Ask your kids for help: If your children are in their teenage years, they are probably old enough to have formed their own personalities and opinions. Ask them what they would like to do about visitation and holiday time together this year. Even if you don’t go with their ideas, or they don’t give you any, they will appreciate being part of the process.
Settling child custody issues during the holidays may be easier said than done. You might even need to make temporary modifications to your divorce agreement. For all the family law help in Flower Mound you require, you can turn to Phillip M. Herr, Attorney at Law. Contact our law office today to learn how our 15 Years of legal experience can benefit your case and inquiry.